Why New years Resolutions are a Waste of Time
So over the last few days we are all geared up with our new years resolutions.
All the things we are going to do or achieve that we never did in 2014.
We dream up lists of the so called things that we need or think we need.
In reality unless we have gone through a “Self Discovery” where we have identified ourselves and our needs, no matter what we achieve we will never be happy anyway.
Sounds simple enough but in reality, it has a huge meaning and a huge role in people’s life.
You may dream of leading a certain kind of life, but when you enter that kind of life, you do not seem to be happy.
We all have ideas in our heads of what is going to make us happy and then end up totally disappointed when we feel we have arrived there and we are still not happy
This is what makes self-discovery very important.
If you do not discover yourself, and know exactly what you want form life, you always tend to be unhappy. This is the major reasons why counselors go for self-discovery sessions. However, even without the help of counselors, you can discover yourself if are a little aware of your needs and feelings.
Most of the people do not know what they want. They keep on searching for one thing and when they achieve that thing, they still are unhappy. To identify your needs, you first need to sit in a quiet place and relax yourself.
Then, when you are in a relaxed state of mind, meditate and focus on your thoughts. Ask yourself questions like what makes you happy, what makes you sad and so on. Along with the question of what, also ask why it makes you happy or sad.
Seek a deep and strong reason behind it, not any fragile reason. After you have the answer to all your questions, write them down in a piece of paper in a tabular form so that whenever you see it, you can understand it.
This finishes the identification session. This is the most important part of the session of self-discovery.
Next, you have to prioritize your needs that you have identified from the first step. You may have several reasons that make you happy, but it is not possible to implement them altogether. Therefore, you have to prioritize them into first, second, third and so on.
This will make everything systematic and you can get all the happy things done one by one. Since you have also noted the things that make you sad, therefore, you can stay away from those things. There will be no confusions anymore if they are well written in paper as well as well engraved in your mind. When we write these needs and what makes us happy and it becomes visual then it also becomes more real and tangible.
Easier said than done. Realize that happiness is often in the journey rather than the destination.
If, you discover yourself and what is really important in your life then you will lead a happier life if you are well-disciplined.
Stick to what is right for you… not what you think should be right but what you know is right.
Be true to yourself, to your needs, to your values and also your beliefs.