Category: Self Development

The Importance of Gratitude

 

The importance of being grateful extends far beyond mere politeness or social niceties. Cultivating a practice of gratitude can have profound positive effects on our mental, emotional, and even physical well-being. Here are some key reasons why gratitude is important:

1.Shifts Focus to the Positive:

Gratitude helps shift our focus from what may be lacking or negative in our lives to what we already have and appreciate. It allows us to recognize and acknowledge the positive aspects, experiences, and relationships we often take for granted.

2.Enhances Mental Well-being:

Regularly expressing gratitude has been linked to improved mental health. It can reduce stress, anxiety, and depression while fostering a more optimistic outlook. Gratitude helps rewire our brains to focus on the positive and promotes a sense of contentment and satisfaction.

Strengthens Relationships:

Expressing gratitude towards others strengthens our relationships and deepens our connections. It helps us acknowledge and appreciate the kindness, support, and love we receive from others. Gratitude fosters a positive atmosphere in our interactions and promotes empathy, understanding, and a sense of belonging.

Increases Resilience:

Gratitude can enhance our resilience in the face of challenges and adversity. It helps us find silver linings, learn from difficult experiences, and maintain a sense of hope and optimism. By recognizing what we are grateful for, we build inner strength and emotional well-being, enabling us to navigate life’s ups and downs more effectively.

Promotes Physical Health:

Studies have shown that practicing gratitude can have physical health benefits. It can lower blood pressure, improve sleep quality, and boost the immune system. Grateful individuals often engage in healthier behaviors, such as regular exercise and self-care, leading to overall better physical well-being.

Fosters Mindfulness and Present Moment Awareness:

Gratitude encourages us to be fully present and mindful of the present moment. It helps us savor and appreciate the little joys, beauty, and experiences that may otherwise go unnoticed. By cultivating gratitude, we learn to live with greater awareness and a deeper sense of gratitude for the present.

Inspires Acts of Kindness:

When we are grateful for what we have received, we are more likely to pay it forward and engage in acts of kindness towards others. Gratitude inspires generosity, compassion, and a desire to make a positive difference in the lives of others, creating a ripple effect of gratitude and kindness.

Incorporating a regular gratitude practice into our lives allows us to foster a more positive mindset, improve our well-being, and strengthen our relationships. By acknowledging and appreciating the good in our lives, we can experience greater happiness, fulfillment, and a deeper connection with ourselves and those around us.

Changing Habits That Are Deeply Ingrained in the Subconscious

Ever trying changing a habit so desperately only to find out that something deep within is not willing? You have gone to counselors, the psychologists, spent money on self books and running to every sort of seminar that includes the self help stuff only to find yourself at the same position you were in before? It is said that it is at this moment when the subconscious and the conscious are at logger heads and in most cases the subconscious wins.

Our habits drive our lives, that is why it is important to bring the bad habits into our conscious awareness and replace them with the obstruct ones to be able to move forward. If you are not yet where you want to be or if you have not yet achieved what you have always desired for a long time then you ought to really examine your approaches to life.

I suggest you prepare a list of how you perceive things around you or your attitude toward life. Of course you will have those that do not serve you well and you don’t have to beat yourself down because of it, after all you are human. All you have to do is eliminate them completely and replace them with their opposite ones. Say you think that you are looser and you cannot achieve anything in life or that life is way too hard whatever your perception is, your subconscious takes it in and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

So instead of saying that, think of the past achievements or think of how much you can achieve and conquer a lot and how easy life can get if only you apply the right skills. You may not believe it but I advise that you keep doing it, fake it till you make it. Keep repeating those words to yourself as much as possible and no matter how long it takes, you will enjoy its aftermath.

This exercise requires some time, full time dedication and a burning desire to really do it and achieve your goals otherwise if you easily give up you will not go far. You should set time for some deep analysis of your habits and do more of meditation to help relax your mind. Keep the positive attributes coming until it becomes your new approach to life. Your mind will have a new command to steer you directly into your dreams.

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Since thousands of years ago, Mantras were first written about in the ancient Vedic scriptures which went back as old as 1,000 B.C.

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Learn to be Grateful

Just today in class we were doing an exercise in Personal Development and discussing the skills we have in life now as we are finishing our first term of  our course in Health and Social care. We journeyed through numeracy, literacy, being a team worker and all the usual skills that would come to the mind of a teenager or young adult.

Just to make life interesting I threw in the word“Gratitude” and was not surprised when I got a sea of blank faces… eh what?… what is she on about now?

What´s that?

Now in all honesty I did not expect them to throw themselves fully into this discussion but what I really wanted to do was plant a seed of though that feeling “gratitude” is a skill that they should look at and one that they could grow over time.

The ability to be grateful… it´s quite simple really… We are grateful for what we have.

My purpose in throwing this skill into the discussion is to try and show teenagers that if they stop looking at the blocks and the limitations they place on themselves they can develop a more open view of people of life in general and the world we live in.

In our western society where happiness and contentment are assumed to be connected to wealth and fame it is difficult to main focus and attention on developing this skill of gratitude but it will grow if we can maintain our focus. We are bombarded daily with stories of the rich and famous in the media so its not surprising that children grow up assuming that money somehow makes us successful and happy.

As the discussion in class moved forward and we all started to add the aspects of life we are grateful for it was enlightening to say the least and fun as well !

We looked at all those aspects in life that we take for granted in our western Society.

Free Health care, a home to live in, feeling secure in our homes and getting a good education were a few that were mentioned.

So does being grateful make us happy?

I cannot give you the answer to that as it is something you have to ask yourself. … but I can tell you a story.

The happiest people I have ever met where the children from the remote African Villages where we grew up in Northern Uganda. They had no shoes on their feet and most of the time had little clothes.

So what made them happy?

The rim of a bicycle wheel and a stick to roll it along the ground…

Learn to be Grateful!

Kathy

Self Discovery ….a key to a happy Life

The term “Self discovery” means identifying yourself and your needs. I often talk to students in health and social care in  college about identifying a person’s needs. .When we identify a person’s needs then we can apply a plan to help them with where they are right now.

It is however a different story when we try to identify our own needs. 

Sounds simple enough but in reality, it has a huge meaning and a huge role in people’s life. You may dream of leading a certain kind of life, but when you enter that kind of life, you do not seem to be happy.

We all have ideas in our heads of what is going to make us happy and then end up totally disappointed when we feel we have arrived there and we are still not happy

This is what makes self-discovery very important.

If you do not discover yourself, and know exactly what you want form life, you always tend to be unhappy. This is the major reasons why counselors go for self-discovery sessions. However, even without the help of counselors, you can discover yourself if are a little aware of your needs and feelings.

The first step to self-discovery is identification of your needs.

Most of the people do not know what they want. They keep on searching for one thing and when they achieve that thing, they still are unhappy. To identify your needs, you first need to sit in a quiet place and relax yourself.

Then, when you are in a relaxed state of mind, meditate and focus on your thoughts. Ask yourself questions like what makes you happy, what makes you sad and so on. Along with the question of what, also ask why it makes you happy or sad.

Seek a deep and strong reason behind it, not any fragile reason. After you have the answer to all your questions, write them down in a piece of paper in a tabular form so that whenever you see it, you can understand it.

This finishes the identification session. This is the most important part of the session of self-discovery.

Next, you have to prioritize your needs that you have identified from the first step. You may have several reasons that make you happy, but it is not possible to implement them altogether. Therefore, you have to prioritize them into first, second, third and so on.

This will make everything systematic and you can get all the happy things done one by one. Since you have also noted the things that make you sad, therefore, you can stay away from those things. There will be no confusions anymore if they are well written in paper as well as well engraved in your mind. When we write these needs and what makes us happy and it become visual then it also become more real and tangible.

Next is executing these happy moments into actions.

Easier said than done. Realize that happiness is often in the journey rather than the destination.

If, you discover yourself and what is really important in your life then you will lead a happier life if you are well-disciplined.

Stick to what is right for you… not what you think should be right but what you know is right.

Be true to yourself, to your needs, to your values and also your beliefs.

take care 

Kathy

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Ancient Secrets of Kings is an innovative and brilliant self-improvement transformation course that picks up  many amazing success stories and the secrets of ancient emperors and brings them together in the form of videos.

The course is spread over  what they call 3 pillars (more on that later), which are further divided into several modules. It is an extremely comprehensive course which deals with different aspects of life and teaches you important life lessons for success.

These days, many of us  are inclined to prepare ourselves for the future based on predictions. Although this is not a bad idea, a  better option would be to analyse the past and learn from it. If you do not repeat the mistakes you made and then you are bound to succeed.

Ancient Secrets of Kings works on that same principle and highlights the ancient kings’ secrets which are not known to many.

This is then there for you to apply to any situation in your modern lifestyle today.

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Power of Three
Ancient Secrets of Kings has three important pillars, which are then divided into different modules. Each of the  pillars refers to a place where ancient kings ruled.

China
China was a center of arts, learning, and innovation  back in the days when ancient kings ruled over the land.

Ancient Secrets of Kings uncovers the many hidden facts about those ancient Chinese emperors which weren’t discovered for centuries literally  because the Chinese did not share their secrets with anyone.

One aspect which first took me by surprise was about creating boundaries but after watching the videos, I changed my mind.

The way in which the point was justified is just simply amazing. The ancient Chinese kings ordered the construction of the Great Wall of China to protect his people from foreign intrusions and attacks. Another important factor which was crucial  in the growth of the Chinese civilization is hard work. This was possible because of the optimization of their lives. The Chinese believed strongly in enhancing their productivity and they strictly followed their timetables. All this contributed to the success of China as a nation and civilization.

Egypt
Whenever you are talking about ancient civilizations, the first place we all think of is  Egypt. The biggest lesson to learn from the Ancient Egyptian civilization is for us to use our available resources efficiently and also follow a proactive approach. Take advantage of your present skills and ideas to transform your life. You will be surprised to know how well  the pharaohs used their human resources, financial resources, natural resources and other resources to their advantage. Today It serves as a great inspiration for anyone who wants to turn his or her dreams into reality. This helps a great deal in managing risks and making the most of opportunities. You can  turn things around just  by walking in the footsteps of ancient Egyptian pharaohs.

Israel
For people who want to live their dreams, the final pillar is Israel, and it is the most important. In this pillar, you learn how you can achieve both financial stability (money) and emotional attachment (love) at the same time. To do this, you have to follow the guidelines provided in this pillar to resolve conflicts  and cool off the anger. These are two of the basic threats to society  today. Prosperity and peace will come to the surface when you keep these two factors in check. After watching the videos, it is not that difficult to live your life to the fullest, even in these turbulent times.

My Recommendation
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Top 5 Regrets of the Dying

 

If you are reading this email then you are like me and that heading really got your attention!

I consider myself lucky …yes lucky in that I have had a fear of dying happen to me in my life some 15 years ago. This was in the 45 minutes that I sat outside the surgeon’s office waiting to hear if my tumor was malignant or benign. As I sat there with my husband waiting to walk in I was faced with the fear that I might die. The thoughts that went through my head were all about my family.

I never once thought of work or anything else for that matter. All I thought about was my husband and my kids. When I received the good news in the surgeons office…it was benign and operable then what I had gone through in my mind while waiting outside his office was a revelation. It was a revelation that nothing else is really important except for those you love.

Those 45 minutes changed my whole perspective in life and made me realize that my life could come to an end at any time.  It totally changed my attitude to life and made me determined that when I get to that stage when my time is up then I will have no regrets.

We do not know when our final moments will be and yet most of us travel through life thinking that time is endless. We assume that we will be around for a long time and that we can put off the things we really want to do because we have so much time and we can do it at a later stage.

In effect we are drifting through life we are not living it.

If this is you ……then read these regrets below. They will surely get you thinking

Top five regrets of the dying

 

Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a book.

Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”

Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:

I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the number one  regret. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. All of the men  deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

 

I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

 I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

 I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a  common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

If this article has hit home with you and you feel its time to change the direction of your life then listening to The Millionaires Brain will make you think!

 what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?

Do You Know Your Life Purpose?

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Why Bother Knowing Life Purpose?

 

We bother about knowing our Life purpose because it is  important for us to have a plan for where we want to go.

If you understand your lifes purpose then it will give you a meaningful compass in which you have direction and guide in your life.

If you’re looking to move into a new path of your life, knowing your purpose in life can help you.

If you have a nagging feeling that there is something more in your life, then discovering life purpose can bring into a whole new level of passion and joy to your life.  Finding your life purpose can help you find out why you love those things that you love and also what you can do to accomplish or excel in the direction you want to go.

If you want to make changes in your life then its important to remember that your life purpose is not really about what you do but it revolves around who you are when you do it.

It is not about the doing…It is about the being.

 

It is the you that appears in everything you accomplish or do in life.

 

Finding your life purpose is not easy and it is a task that I challenge my students with each year.

We discuss clues that life gives us and no matter where we are in life now, our hobbies, our daily activities and our part-time jobs will all give us clues as to our life purpose.

If  you find this difficult to see the clues then you can start by asking questions about what you like to do.

Many people don’t have any idea about what they love to do. Without finding what you want to do you will never

find your life purpose.

Knowing what you love to do can serve as your steering wheel of your life. If you don’t know what you love to do,

you won’t have any direction to your life. But, if you have an idea on your passion, it will be much easier for you to

know your life purpose. Also, all your burdens and uncertainties in life will be removed.

why do students and also many others experience some difficulties finding out what they love to do?

It is quite simple really  ..  they have never really asked themselves about what they love to do.

Being honest is also a key to find out what you love to do.

One way to find out what we love to do is to

  List Down Our Skills-

 

Listing your skills or interests can also a great help. Through these, you can easily concentrate on what you love to do.

However, make sure to list down the true information about you. Skills and interests are

important because skills will help you identify your strengths.

Another idea is to find out What Do Other People Think You’re Good At?

I always ask the students to pick out 2 people in their team and write down three skills each of them have.

The most common things that the majority of people think about what you’re good at is positive.

Sometimes, it is also good to be criticized by other people.

The reason behind it is that you are not always strong and good at something. There will always times that you

might fail on the things you regularly do. You have to take accept that there is no perfect person. That is why it is

also good to experience failures as these can also give you understanding or knowledge about what you want to

achieve in your life.

Your strengths are what make you stronger. Though you also have weaknesses, your strengths can be the key to

get good comments or reactions from other people. If you always want to get positive feedbacks from other people,

do the things you love and work from your heart.

You can always fake your feelings, but your output or performance can tell something that will reflect on you.

So, if you don’t want to fail in searching for your life purpose, you should do the things you love.

 

 

 

 

3 Great Secrets to Success

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What makes some people more successful in life than others ?

What makes people happy?

Are success and happiness linked ?

These are questions which has been asked for hundreds of years and many answers have been discovered and rediscovered over this time. Many of the main answers relate to how you think about yourself and the world around you and simply by changing how you think will start to have a dramatic effect on your life.

One of the first principles which you must accept is that you must take full responsibility for the events in your life. It is no use blaming other people, the government, your boss etc. for the things that are wrong in your life. You have total control over how you think and act and it is up to you to decide to be happy and successful. Happiness comes entirely from a state of mind. If you decide to be happy you will be. The more you think about happiness and success the more it will will happen. Once you accept this first point you can take many positive steps towards success.

Probably the most important of these can be summarized in the following three steps:

Assess your main target in life

Choose a definite aim in life, one which you know is realistic for your talents and abilities, one which you know is something you really want to do and enjoy doing. Make up your mind that you will push as hard as possible towards that aim. To ensure success you must have a burning desire for this purpose and want to take the appropriate action to achieve this purpose. Write this aim down.

“Know what you want, when you want it, why you want it, and how you intend to get it.”

Set goals which are consistent with this target.

Goal setting is one of the most powerful ways to focus and achieve success. However goals must be in accordance with your main aim in life. If you strive for and achieve a goal which is not in line with your target, it will not help you to be happy even if you are generally successful. Goals can be of different length, short term, medium term or long term. Ideally have a mixture of all three. You should write your goals down, even this act alone will make it much more definite and much more likely to achieve. Read and review your goals often. Make your goals achievable and have at least some which you can see the path to achieving even if it’s not always clear how you will reach the longer term goals.

Take continuous action towards your goals.

Once your goals are written down aim to take definite actions towards these goals even if they are very small. It is essential to get into the habit of avoiding procrastination when you know there are tasks to be done. A great way to do this is to plan to only take a little action, sometimes as short as a few minutes at a time. Often this will get you going and you will devote more time to it than you originally planned, at other times you will realize that now is not such a good time, but you will have achieved a little bit towards your goal. Another great habit to adopt is to tackle the most difficult task first and get it out of the way. This usually makes all the rest of the task so much easier.

Following these easy three steps will have a very positive effect on your life and will dramatically improve your chances of success.

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