Self Discovery – The Key to a Happier Life

The term “Self discovery” means identifying yourself and your needs.

Sounds simple enough  but  in reality, it has a huge meaning and a huge role in people’s life. You may dream of leading a certain kind of life, but when you enter that kind of life, you do not seem to be happy.

We all have ideas in our heads of what is going to make us happy and then end up totally disappointed when we feel we have arrived there  and we are still not happy

This is what makes self-discovery very important.

If you do not discover yourself, and know exactly what you want form life, you always tend to be unhappy. This is the major reasons why counselors go for self-discovery sessions. However, even without the help of counselors, you can discover yourself if are a little aware of your needs and feelings.

 

The first step to self-discovery is identification of your needs.

Most of the people do not know what they want. They keep on searching for one thing and when they achieve that thing, they still are unhappy. To identify your needs, you first need to sit in a quiet place and relax yourself.

 

Then, when you are in a relaxed state of mind, meditate and focus on your thoughts. Ask yourself questions like what makes you happy, what makes you sad and so on. Along with the question of what, also ask why it makes you happy or sad.

Seek a deep and strong reason behind it, not any fragile reason. After you have the answer to all your questions, write them down in a piece of paper in a tabular form so that whenever you see it, you can understand it.

This finishes the identification session. This is the most important part of the session of self-discovery.

 

Next, you have to prioritize your needs that you have identified from the first step. You may have several reasons that make you happy, but it is not possible to implement them altogether. Therefore, you have to prioritize them into first, second, third and so on.

This will make everything systematic and you can get all the happy things done one by one. Since you have also noted the things that make you sad, therefore, you can stay away from those things. There will be no confusions anymore if they are well written in paper as well as well engraved in your mind. When we write these needs and what makes us happy and it become visual then it also become more real and tangible.

 

Next is executing these happy moments into actions.

Easier said than done. Realize that happiness is often in the journey rather than the destination.

If, you discover yourself  and what is really important in your life then you will  lead a happier life if you are  well-disciplined.

Stick to what is right for you …not what you think should be right but what you know is right .

Be true to yourself, to your needs, to your values and also your beliefs.

 

Characteristics of a Confident Teenager

What characteristics of self-confidence do confident teens show?

Here are ten behaviors you can identify as ways in which a teen with self-confidence will act:

1.) Confident teens will always look people in the eye when talking with them. They will not look away as if they are shy.

2.) A confident teenager will have good  hygiene habits and cares about what their appearance says to others. In fact sometimes they overdo it, especially girls who have been known to spend hours getting ready for a night out.

   3.)  A teen is showing confidence when they are not scared to share ideas with their class, club or group. They have the confidence to express their opinion without feeling vulnerable or worried about others reactions.

  4.)  A confident teen is able steer clear of harmful situations and to say no to peers when they need to. They will start to recognize what is right for them and feel like they do not have to take part just to be accepted.This doesn’t mean that they will begin to give their friends lectures on the differences between right and wrong. They just tend to be able to avoid the bad behaviors of their peers.

5.) On a normal basis, a confident teen has a ready smile.

6.) A teen will show their confidence when making plans for the future. These teens tend to know where they want to go to, ( technical school, into the health fields, etc.) even if they don’t know exactly what they want to do. A Confident teenager will be focused on their future.

7.) A confident teen doesn’t show-off their accomplishments. While they may be proud of themselves and tell you about something good that has happened, they aren’t ostentatious.

8.) Confident teens don’t beat themselves up over a mistake. They look for ways to fix their mistakes and will change how they handle a situation the next time around. They will have developed creative skills and will be able to analyze a problem and learn from the situation

9.) Confident teens find  by not being afraid to try new things. They are the teens that tend to get themselves over scheduled. They need to keep control of their time management to not become over committed.

10.) A teen is showing their confidence when they are willing to help those around them. When you help someone, you make a statement about how you feel on whatever it is you are doing. It takes confidence to do this.

Please do not get hung up if you feel your teen does not have all these qualities and think your teen is not confident. Adolescence is about the ups and downs of becoming who you are and situational circumstances can make the most confident teen act unsure at any time. If there is one thing certain about the developing adolescent is that nothing stays the same.

Why listen…how would you understand?

Teenagers have lots of reasons for not listening….or so they tell me !

 

One of the most apparent reasons for not listening is their total  belief that you couldn’t possibly understand their situation, you were never a teenager I guess and  so your advice is flawed before you even start.

   How would you know anything about fitting in with the Emo kids, getting dumped

by your  soul  mate or putting up with dorky parents that are too embarrassing for words!

 

 When your teen has it in his mind that you’re lame and inexperienced… and most of us are I guess then everything you say is going to go in one ear and out the other.

 

 Teenagers do need us ..yes they do need their parents and we are one of the two most important people in his or her life , whether they wants to admit it or not.

 

 Your perception of  your teenager builds their perception of themselves, and even if they continue to adamantly deny it, they does look up to you.

 

 More often than not, communicating with your teenagers is something that both parties involved consider very important but neither of them know what to do.

 

 Teens see their parents as older, nagging authority figures who don’t listen but instead offer snap judgments and advice that’s usually not wanted. Parents, too, see their teens as social enigmas, curious puzzle boxes that not even the smartest among us know how to solve.

 

 However both the teenager and the parent are actually desperate to open up the lines of communication. No matter how desperate you are you can’t force your teen to open up to you, but until he does and you’ve established that connection, nothing you say is going to stick.

 

 You just have to make yourself as open as possible to them, and hope for the best that they will know the lines of communication are open when they are ready to talk.

 

 When they’re sitting down and you’re each giving each other your undivided attention….and that is undivided with no distractions then you should feel fairly secure that they’re ready to listen.

 

Here are some tips on how to communicate with your teenager

 

 Avoid the urge to fight

If you let disagreements turn into all-out brawls with your teenagers, you’ll lose lots of precious ground you’re trying to gain. Many parents may believe that compromising with your teenagers to avoid all-out confrontation takes away your authority.Remember  Be calm when your teenager is not, and turn away from a fight.

Listen, don’t just hear

Teenagers everywhere have the same problems ,believe me I work with lots of them everyday.

Although they want to open up to their parents, they know their parents won’t really listen. Instead, they’ll jump in halfway, offer some advice that’s more an order than a suggestion, and think they’ve solved the problem.

Be patient

– It may be hard, but you have to let your teens fully express themselves. Don’t jump to conclusions and override them with your beliefs and suggestions. If you try to finish their sentences for them or assume you know what they’re trying to tell you, you’ll probably just frustrate them – enough, more than likely, to drive them away from the conversation.

Be prepared to hear hard news. 

Your kids are teens, now, and they’re dealing with complex, adult emotions and crises. If your son or daughter has something they need to talk to you about, you have to be prepared for the possibility that they need to talk about sex, drugs or any other adult issues.

She needs privacy.

 To show that you respect your teen’s privacy, don’t rummage through her personal space unless you have a concrete reason to believe that she’s lying to you or hiding something serious. And remember:

Sometimes he just needs you to listen.

Understand that sometimes your kids just want a sounding board-they’re not looking for you to solve all their problems. When your son complains that his science teacher is being unfair or his soccer coach has been extra-hard on him, encourage him to talk by asking open-ended questions. (“Well, how does that make you feel?”) Don’t jump in with advice or threaten to intervene.

 

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Work on your Listening Skills

For the last three weeks in college we have been talking about skills that we need to be effective in our future careers

 

Of course many occupations have job specific skills but there are many skills that are common ground no matter what we do.

One of those skills is listening skills and something that I was reminded off with the situation that happened to my daughter that very day.

Just the evening before my daughter who is studying performing Arts at college had informed me that she had to be taken to a theater in Belfast for 7.30 the next morning.

“why would anyone want to go to a theater at 7.30 in the morning?

I was assured by her that this was part of her course and it amazed me that the course Tutors would expect the students to get there somehow considering that most had two parents who worked.

 

As I questioned the validity of this exercise my husband gallantly put himself forward to deliver my daughter to the theater.

So as I sat in my car on the way to college the phone call arrived at 7.30.

Yes   you guessed it …one does not have to be a brain surgeon to work it out that …it was meant to be 7.30 that night.

So my husband sat in traffic for one hour all because my daughter did not listen. This is just a tiny example of the consequences of not listening actively to the actual words that people say.

 Listening is one of the most important skills you can have. How well you listen has a major impact on your job effectiveness, and on the quality of your relationships with others.

  • We listen to obtain information.
  • We listen to understand.
  • We listen for enjoyment.
  • We listen to learn.

Yet most of us do not really know how to listen properly and research suggests that we remember between 25 percent and 50 percent of what we hear.

That means that when you talk to your boss, colleagues, customers or spouse for 10 minutes, they pay attention to less than half of the conversation.

This is dismal!

 

When I teach in class and I give out assignments for the students to write up I specifically tell them to listen to what I am going to say on what they have to do.

I purposely keep it short and simple and every single time I will get a student asking me to tell them what I have just said in the minute before.

I cannot be too hard on them because Listening is a skill that does not come naturally. It is a skill that we have to develop and work on and it is a skill that we can benefit from improving.

By becoming a better listener, you will improve your productivity, as well as your ability to influence, persuade and negotiate. What’s more, you’ll avoid conflict and misunderstandings. All of these are necessary for workplace success!

Can Positive Thinking Change Your Life?

Can Positive Thinking Change Your Life?

 

Most people nowadays are always in a depressed state of mind due to the pressures of life. Doctors and counselors constantly advise you to  think positively in order to set back depression. However, it is tougher to do than to say.

Studies show that people who accept defeat sportingly are the happier type of people and they have an optimistic attitude towards life.

 

  It often may happen that you get worried out of minor issues arising in your daily life.

  On the other hand, do you get frustrated when things go haphazard? Do you think that you  are not happy as much as others are?

   Do you get angry at the slightest mistake? If these entire attitudes have covered your life, then learn some positive thinking strategies to make life easier and happier.

Only an optimistic person can lead a happy and peaceful life.

 

Now you may ask what exactly the meaning of positive thinking is and how important it is. The answer to this is positive thinking is a process of thinking everything in life or surroundings from a positive or brighter side even if it reflects a negative tone.

The outlook and approach towards a task should be from a positive point. The thought in your head must enlighten the positive aspects instead of the negative, discouraging thoughts. Once you change your attitude from a pessimist to an optimist, you will find feel all the good vibes.

All good things will surround you and give you more energy to move forward in times of depression.

 

Nevertheless, how do you suddenly change from being a pessimist to an optimist? Well, it is not a matter of sudden change or changing your thinking process within a day. It all depends on time, your practice and willingness. You have to learn to identify your inner voice. This is the first step to make the changes.

 

Some people perform an act suddenly without thinking for a second time. They do not think  what they really want to do or not. Therefore, first you have to learn to identify your inner voice.

After that, always speak in a positive manner. For instance, if you are asking yourself a question, then instead of asking,

“Am I not capable of doing this work?” ask, “Am I capable of doing this work?”

It reflects a positive attitude. You can find several such examples in your daily life if you put a little attention to what you do.

 

Therefore, if you are willing to change your life for the good, then keep a little patience and learn to think positively.

Learn to Be Assertive Respectfully

Learn to Be Assertive Respectfully

 

Excuse me?……. learn to be what ?

 

Not sure what you mean there?

Well let us  back track to class some 2 days ago…….

 

It was hand in day for an assignment and a normally good student did not have her work done.  She did not lie …like the dog ate it kind of thing but told me plainly that she just did not have it done.

 

As I had given the work to the students one week previous and every one of the other students in a class of 23 had their work finished I was concerned as to what was happening.

 

This  class are studying Personal Development and the student in question did not mind me making a demonstration out of her situation for the rest of the class to analyze so we proceeded to question her as to the reasons why her work was not complete .

 

As we started our analysis it turned out that the student in question was working for 40 hours a week in a clothes shop to make some money.  The manager had left the shop  and the shop owner was pleading her to work longer to manage the shop.

The result of this was a student who  left college each day ,went straight to the shop and walked in through the door of her house at 10.00 pm each night. No wonder she  had fallen behind in her work.

 As we continued to ask her questions it became obvious that the shop owners were using Quilt to motivate the student to work longer and showing no regard or respect for the fact that she was enrolled in a full time course at college .

Of course the blame can not be laid at the feet of the shop owner as he  is running a business for profit and will look at all the resources to do that.

Where the problem lay was the inability of the student to be assertive and say “No “ respectively that in her given circumstances it was just impossible to work those hours. If she continued then her course at college was going to suffer which was already starting to happen.

 

Not only was this a case of quilt  holding back this student from being assertive but also a readjustment of the responsibility for running the shop from the owner was passed over to the student .

 

All of this culminated in a considerable amount of stress in the overload of work commitments.

 

As we analyzed further we were able to offer suggestions that the student could make to the owner that she could train someone else and maybe job share. However when we were told that this had already been suggested and turned down because of finances it became very apparent that by not being totally assertive about her other responsibilities in her course this student was heading down the path of overload and it was only a matter of time before  she was going to start failing and would drop out of her course.

 

Sometimes in life no matter how hard it is to assert our decision it is something that we have to do and something we have to do with respect. It is important to remember that Life will still continue and the shop will not collapse if she is not there.

 

Waking up to the realities of where not being assertive will take this student is probably her main motivator.

Dropping out of her course, failing to move onto University, failing to become a midwife and failing to do the job she has always wanted to do.

As we concluded the lesson it was obvious that a future prognosis of this student’s progress was not difficult to make and the effect of the lesson was to let her see  exactly where she was right now and the consequences of her non assertiveness on the future of her career.

 An assertive person will make sure that his or her thoughts are expressed clearly. A person can be assertive while still being sensitive to other people’s feelings and needs. Assertiveness is important in happiness because some circumstances will push the person to the ground, just like what was happening here. Assertiveness will let oneself and the whole world know that he or she is not happy with something. Assertiveness is doing something about things that need to be changed.

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